Recently a friend of mine asked me this question:
“But, Djénéba, what do you do those days when you are not feeling like anything but want to feeling like something?”
I paused for a few second as even if I have a million ideas on how to answer that question, at this exact moment I struggled embracing uncertainty and insecurity. I quite frankly did not feel like doing anything or seeing anyone myself. At this moment, I was trying to uplift myself, to tell her those words that would in turn elevate me.
” – I guess If I am not feeling like anything, I am not feeling like anything fully. I admit it, I accept it and I feel it. There is nothing wrong with not feeling like anything. You cannot feel like something all the time, right? If I need it cry it out or write it out, to understand the situation and how I could move from it. I do so. You can’t be motivated and strong all the time and with time, it will of course get better. It always get better. Obviously, we both know it is not a comfortable situation but this discomfort always means something.
– What do you mean?
– It often means something needs to change, to evolve whether a circumstance or your set of mind. Sometimes, we can’t understand everything right away but we can still make a move forward.
– I get it but here you are talking about the right mindset to adopt. What do you do and what could I concretely do except writing, and reflect on the situation to try and put me in a better place mentally?
- I pause
- I reach out to myself
- I rest while listening to music
- I sleep
- I put on a guided mindfulness meditation I found on YouTube.
- I read
- I drink tea
- I take a hot shower or a bath
- I breath.
- I watch funny and silly YouTube videos
- I watch a comedy
- I call or reach out to people.
- I read blog content and relate to other people experiences
- I go on a solo excursion
- I go outside breath and walk
- I blog and edit pictures – You can also draw or be creative otherwise
- I go to my favourite café
- I listen to music
- I listen to inspirational TED talks
- I talk to my niece
- I listen to music and dance
- I hug my grand-mother
- I buy myself a new book because I love reading, you love reading magazine, treat yourself to one
- I internally repeat to myself that things will turn out great
- I visit my auntie
- I go to the cinema
- I visualise this great situation
- Because I love huge breakfast I treat myself to a nice breakfast
Dear, I guess all of this above allow me to slowly unstuck, remember me that most circumstances are transient and are a matter of perspective.”