Your money or your life? : On burn outs

Your money or your life? : on Burn outs How can you make time for self-care when you have one, two or three demanding jobs? How can you make time for self-care when you need to work substantially to eat and pay the bills? How can you make time for self-care when you are struggling by yourself with no parent or partner to take care of you? Is self-care a privilege for people who have loads of money or people with no obligations? Absolutely not. I am convinced that money does not have to be a nightmare. There is no need to prioritizes it over your own well-being. In our society, because everyone is moving so fast, we are encouraged to […]

Fatherless daughters: a social and self-love issue

Fatherless daughters: a social and self-love issue My father did not take care of me while growing up. Finally seeing him after more than ten years for the first time as an adult trying to implement a healthy daughter-father relationship something I dreamed of, reinforced the deep feeling of abandonment I thought it would silence.  Then, I have decided to distance myself from him, from the situation. When I have decided to put self-care at the centre of my philosophy I healed. This situation will always affect me but I am not hurt by it anymore. Moreover, I don’t consider myself a victim, I consider myself more than anything else as privileged to have been brought up with people who cared, to have […]

25 things I have no doubt about: Lessons learned

25 things I have no doubt about: Lessons learned I just turned 25 and I am more than excited about this new age, this new stage of my life. I have never been so comfortable in my own skin, ageing has been quite comforting so far. Birthdays are a great opportunity for self-reflection and introspection. So, I have been in a reflective mode and here are some of the 25 things I have been thinking about lately, those are things that resonate with me and that are rooted in my personal experience. Those are lessons learned, a list to go back to whenever needed, a reminder, a kind of personal statement. I encourage anyone to try and start such a […]

Life After University: The art of being comfortable with the uncomfortable

Life After University: The art of being comfortable with the uncomfortable   Being comfortable with the uncomfortable, being at ease with the unknown, being mentally stable when external circumstances are unstable is to date one of the most challenging journeys I have consciously decided to embark on. After university, you are finding yourself outside this comfortable and save space where things are pretty predictable and comforting. This environment in which you know exactly the direction you are heading toward and the opportunities you can create for yourself. After this time, the journey is all about adjustment and flexibility. Sometimes, it feels that your potential does not match your reality at all and the efforts put in bettering your situation do not […]

How to stay focused on your goals? A week writing challenge – 7 days 7 key questions

How to stay focused on your goals? A week writing challenge – 7 days 7 key questions Sebenni Ni Taama means writing and traveling, because putting things on paper is a great way tool for making sense of your reality, traveling in the depth of your mind and assisting you on reaching new goals in your lives. Those are a series of questions meant to help do the work. They may come handy if: You find ourselves stuck in your journey You are willing to take concrete action to keep getting closer to your goals You aim to continuously measure your progress After answering those questions, it is up to you to deepen your self-reflection time. For instance, to write with clarity […]

How to start writing for your wellness? A week challenge: 7 days – 7 lists

How to start writing for your wellness? A week challenge: 7 days – 7 lists   Sebenni ni Taama means writing and travelling and is all about providing you relevant tools for your self-growth. In that regards, writing is a powerful one. It is a tool that has helped me tremendously to ponder my experience in this world, to think about my character and has enabled me to deepen my spiritual and personal development journey. To write is to be audacious, it is to dare to start and act, act on yourself, on your environment and on your ideas.  To write is to dare to explore your potential. To write is to take a step closer to knowing yourself which in turn […]

Why are we so hard on ourselves?

Why are we so hard on ourselves? Why are we continuously sabotaging ourselves? Having self-esteem is great but it should not cause anxiety when our skills and abilities do not translate in our life. We too often forget the things we should hold on to when our expectations do not match our reality: personal growth, learning experiences, character building, resilience, creativity and so much more. Big achievements are partly dependent on external circumstances​; however we are in control of how we decide to process our becoming which is power in itself. One of the major lessons I have learnt this year is how self-compassionate is healing. I understood the importance of being more accepting, accurate, kind and patient towards where I stand on my journey. What is self-compassion? Self-compassion is about: Being kind and understanding the same way we would to friends without harsh judgment. Being mindful of our circumstances without denying them or suppressing our […]